This weekend I’m going to two weddings. As with any wedding, I had to find a great dress for the occasion, and did I ever. I’ll post some photos after the weekend but that’s not what this post is about.
The wedding weekend had me think about a common thing that women say and do before weddings. Have you ever heard a woman say or maybe you yourself have said, “OMG! I have to start working out so I can fit into my dress.” I know I have. Or if you’re a man, you have said or thought something along the lines of, “Better hit the gym ‘cuz Cabo is coming up in three weeks.” I’m going to use the example of the dress in this post, but this is applicable to both genders.
I have found myself in the past thinking I had to crash diet and workout extra long to be able to look good for one night. I’d proceed to eat fewer meals, hit the gym for twice as long and immediately when the event was over, going right back into my old habits. This is totally not a healthy practice. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think that there’s anything wrong with cleaning up your diet and stepping up your workouts a few weeks before any event, be it a wedding, vacation or a day at the pool.
I do think that there is an underlying issue that leads to this type of behavior. When I would crash diet and crash workout, the context I had for my body image was that it wasn’t good enough as it was, in some way I was inadequate the way I was and had to take some drastic measures to try to get myself to some imaginary place that would be good enough. That’s quite a mouth full, but the bottom line was I didn’t have a positive relationship with my body.
At the time I wouldn’t think to myself about my self-image and adequacy, I just wanted to look good in a dress or a vacation. I think that for everyone there is some value in taking a look at the way you relate to your body and notice if it’s a positive relationship or negative. Is it nourishing or is it abusive? Maybe it’s detached or unacknowledging.
I’d like to propose a revolutionary idea: Being Dress Ready (or if you’re not someone who wears a dress, Being Beach Ready).What if, instead of trying to get your body to look some particular way for an event you could have your body ready for any event. All there would ever be to do is kick things up a notch in a way that doesn’t drastically alter your eating and training habits. Imagine, each and every day you treat your body like the temple that it is, feeding it, nourishing it, moving it so that when the occasions come up, it’s ready for you.
Sounds like a much more relaxing experience to me. There’s already so much emotion when it comes to weddings, vacations, special events why not give yourself a break beforehand?